Monday, January 04, 2010

Celebration of an Anniversary, Alive

Two years ago yesterday, I was in an accident that I feel prompted to memorialise.

Nick and I celebrated Christmas of 2007 in a lovely Buddhist monastery on a un-toursity island near Bangkok. We traveled around Thailand with our friend Cat(herine). Then, for new year's, Nick and I took a romantic trip alone to an island called Ko Kood. In order to get to the island we were taken advantage of by a taxi driver, and then left marooned on a dock without the boat ride we'd purchased (infamous Thai 'travel agent' crooks). We begged and pleaded and insisted that they get another boat, and after a couple hours of waiting, hopped onto a little speedboat there with a few other sea-sick couples. But, oh, it was worth it! Some of the resorts on this remote island were fantastically expensive; the Russian tourists stayed there. Our 'resort' consisted of some spots to pitch tents, and some brick huts with grass roofs; perfect. The resort owners are a lovely and generous Thai family. We spent a couple days wandering around on foot before we decided to rent a small motorscooter to explore the other side of the island. Now, everyone knows that scooters aren't safe, but when you're on vacation you think "well, this is my only opportunity..."

THE ACCIDENT
Off we went, on adventure! Helmets weren't available. Bumpy, dirt roads. A crudely photocopied map written in Thai. A couple hours later, we were writhing on a wooden bridge. Some villagers ran out from the forest, put me on the back of a motorcycle, and we bumped along to the island clinic. I was in shock, watching my blood drip on the exhaust pipe. Nick, also injured, rode our rental motorcycle back to the resort for the English-speaking resort owners. There were two nurses at the clinic when I arrived. My left elbow was deeply cut with gravel in it. My left shoulder hurt. My left foot was broken and deformed and really nasty with very little skin on top. The nurses took an X-ray, looked at the image with puzzled expressions, and shrugged. I was given some very mild pain meds. Nick's left hip was deeply traumatized with a bruise that didn't fade for several months. Our friends at the resort provided saving grace as translators, cooks, and chauffers. Eventually we were sent back to the resort, but the last boat had already left the island for the day, so our option was to take the first boat in the morning to the mainland. Of course, if we were thinking clearly, we would have been life-flighted out, but we were in shock...

TRAVEL
The next morning the son of the resort owner carried me into a speedboat from the dock. Nick limped behind with our bags. Not such a romantic end to what was a lovely tour. After an excruciatingly bumpy 2 hour boat ride to the mainland, an ambulance met us at the dock and rushed us off to the hospital in Trat, Thailand. The ER docs tsk-ed and groaned as they cleaned our wounds. X-rays showed my obvious breaks. IV antibiotics pumped into my veins. We were checked into the most lovely, huge hospital room with fresh orchids on my hospital bed -- really! Jobby, the daughter of the resort owner again provided translation and emotional support. We stayed at the hospital for a couple days and then traveled back to Bangkok for our scheduled flight out of Thailand, back to Japan. Of course, if we were thinking clearly, we would have flown home to America, but we were in shock...

We were loaded onto a luxury (almost) bus for a bumpy 7-hour drive from Trat to Bangkok. Then taxis to the airport. Blessed wheelchairs at the airport. Jobby met us in Bangkok, helped us communicate with the airlines, and bid us a teary adieu. Some saintly businessman traded his front-row seats so that I could prop my cast up on the wall for the flight from Bangkok to Osaka. No, the airline didn't give me any special seats despite our injuries and protestations. Then we flew Osaka to Sapporo. Of course, if we were thinking clearly, we would have gone straight to the hospital when we arrived in Sapporo, but we were in shock....

So instead Nick bought us tickets back to Furano. The island of Hokkaido, I should clarify, is thought of like Appalachia is to the USA. And Furano is, well, in the middle of that wilderness. (Lots of bears in the woods. Not a lot of healthy teeth in the children. You get the picture.) From the Sapporo airport we got on a train into the city center. And then, shocked by the Siberian snow and icy streets, I tried to maneuver on crutches to the busstop. I was sobbing with pain. A young woman ahead of me backed up directly into my wounded leg; I freaked out and actually hit her with my crutch (not proud of that moment).

JAPANESE MEDICINE
Japanese healthcare, though internationally famous for its quality, is not all it's cracked up to be. Sure, there is more focus on preventative medicine, which is an excellent idea. And it's true that they do incorporate traditional effective medicine (herbs, acupuncture). And, of course, there is nationalized health insurance. I've already written a blog post about some of my medical care for my broken foot here. It was shit, to put it succinctly.

A couple brief notes about my understanding of Japanese medical policy, as it's been explained to me. A note about physician's medical assignments: In Hokkaido, all governmental employees like doctors and teachers and city workers are moved around from job to job every few years. It is systematic and not based on the wishes of the workers. So a doctor in Sapporo may work in a hospital for 4 years, and then be transferred to Wakkanai, and then be transferred to Furano. All around the island. S/he changes hospitals, and her/his patients get a new doc. This means that, ideally, the best docs are not in the big cities because they get moved around. But also, the docs do not have much quality of life or active commitment in the communities. Another note about medical education: I hear that Japanese doctors don't do residency to declare a specialization. Once they finish med school, they just get to say "I'm a cardiologist" or "I'm an optometrist" as their interest lies. Then they start practicing their new profession; you can imagine there is some learning curve. A note about nurses' training: Twice a month, I taught English classes at Furano's nursing college to students in their final year of school. It was shocking to me how little these students knew about healthcare. One example: in a lesson we asked the students what they should say to a patient who comes into the ER saying he has the worst headache of his life, and he's felt this pain for three days. The nurse's response? Take these pills and come back next week. Shocked, we asked the question again in both English and Japanese to make sure they understood the scenario. We clarified and discovered the nurses had not been trained on aneurysms. (My co-teacher and I subsequently vowed not to get sick in this town.)

MY MEDICAL EXPERIENCE
The nurses in Furano, charged to change my bandages every few days, were instructed to rip off the old bandages. With lack of training and supplies, they re-opened the wounds on my foot every couple days, to replace the bandages with new ones. I gave them these plastic screens to put over the wounds (I'd received the screens from the Thai hospital), to put directly on the skin before the gauze, but the undereducated doctors and nurses would not let me use the screens. So their solution was to rip me open. The wounds didn't close for six weeks.

The X-ray techs didn't have lead aprons to protect me from the many x-rays to which I was exposed. Or, when there were lead aprons available, I had to ask for them specially, and the protective aprons were literally dusted off for me.

The dermatologist who removed stones from my skin was a butcher who refused to wear rubber gloves and worked in a filthy, crowded storage room-turn-operating room. (My physician sister-in-law says the stitches look like they were done by a child.)

I did receive a CAT scan and an MRI to look at damage to my shoulder, but I'm not sure if anyone was trained to understand the pictures. After about two months complaining of shoulder pain, exacerbated by the wheelchair and crutches, I was prescribed physical therapy for my shoulder and foot. I would say that my physical therapy was the only effective treatment I received in the hospital.

Of course, once realizing that the Furano hospital would not be able to provide me with good medical care, I could have traveled to Sapporo, or better yet, just gone home to the US. But we didn't. I didn't prioritize my health. I felt compelled to finish out the year for various complex reasons, mostly to please others. I regret that decision.

My Japanese acupuncturist worked overtime on my biweekly appointments to ease out my pain. I saw him the entire year I was there, and he was perhaps the only person (other than my saintly fiance) who understood the trauma my body had experienced. He tsk-ed with empathy while pummeling my shoulders and needling my crown. He was an excellent caregiver. It's only now, two years later, that I let Reiki and acupuncturist practitioners touch my foot. So much pain and trauma is stored there.

STEPPING FORWARD
But, dear readers! Since the accident I have hiked, run, moved my household twice, practiced countless downward-dogs, performed ballet-style pilates, danced the polka, and challenged my body in many other ways. I'm scarred, but I am healing. Most adults have broken bones; others have succeeded. We are lucky to be alive. I am determined to release the inner scars and trust in my body's innate aptitude to heal and be well.

Winter Love!

We had wonderful winter visitors, and made some great visits, over the holidays!

Here are some pretty pics. For starters, Ms. Mary Grace and her parents Amber and Adam came to Minnesota to see us! Well, they also came to see the loads of family they have in town, but also us. As you dear readers may recall, we visited Amber and Adam and MG last Christmastime in the Netherlands. Amber was the matron-of-honor in our wedding, Gracie a flower-girl, and Adam an honorary flower-boy. Or flower man. Or whatever he prefers to be called. He's a professional philosopher (really!) so he probably has an opinion about that. But here's Mary Grace being her funny-creative self, with boots on her hands.
Shortly thererafter, Nick and I braved the great holiday blizzard of 2009 to drive to Omaha. We needed a few drinks at Clancy's to gain our bearings.



With that settled, we enjoyed lots of family time in the Nebraska blizzard.
Here's a lovely pic of my mother and newborn niece Macy Jade, near the yule log. They're both a little skinny, but the baby has gleefully fattened up over the winter. Aren't they both pretty!!!!

Rich and Pat hosted us in their warm, laughter-filled home.


The midwestern drive was enchanting. The Great Plains stretched on limitless, crystalline, shimmering.



When we returned home to Minnesota, we celebrated our first New Year's as a married couple with silly 2010 'champagne' glasses which I bought from the grocery store. We might afford nicer crystal in future decades, but we might not be so good-lookin' then!

Saturday, January 02, 2010

The Annual Letter


We welcome the new decade with gratitude, prayers, relief, and hope. Both nationally and personally, we're happy to put the last decade of war and loneliness behind us. We have faith in the American qualities of ingenuity and charity to strengthen our communities for the good of all.


Nick and Teresa celebrated the holidays last year by visiting friends in Europe. We celebrated New Year’s Eve in the town square of Leuven, near Brussels, Belgium. At midnight, the DJ played a mix of techno-beats to Obama's acceptance speech! The crowd went wild, and we were brought to tears with feelings of pride and hope.

This is Nick's second year of law school in the weekend program at Hamline University. He enjoyed studying family law, and looks forward to learning more about immigration and environmental law. Nick works at Thompson Reuters, a legal research company.

Teresa was promoted at the University of Minnesota and does more HR work for the Department of Medicine. Teresa has been taking graduate courses at the Center for Spirituality and Healing and has focused her studies on Ayurveda and Tibetan Medicine. This coming semester she will take a course from the Humphrey Institute for Public Affairs called "Leadership for the Common Good".

In July, we also became property managers of two apartment buildings. This new job takes a lot of mutual effort, but it helps us save money toward buying our own home. This recent move brought us a little closer to our Unitarian Universalist church, and we love the neighborhood. Come visit us in historic Saint Paul!

The biggest event of the year was of course our wedding! We were wed in Omaha at 6 o'clock on the 7th day of the eighth month of 2009, at a riverside ceremony on the banks of the Missouri. Our spiritual wedding ceremony was followed by a ballroom reception with peacock feathers and a chocolate fountain! Teresa wore her new gown for the ceremony, and her grandmother Isabel's wedding gown for the reception. Friends and family contributed much time and energy toward our wedding weekend, which was truly a community effort. Thank you!

Our honeymoon began at the Omaha Henry Doorly Zoo with our goddaughters. Teresa and Nick then drove far north, to the edge of Lake Superior. For a week we followed an old northern European honeymoon custom by drinking a daily cup of mead, a brew made from honey. That's a lot of mead, but we're happy to support our nation's beekeepers. Our time on the edge of the Great Lakes further deepened our love for Minnesota. We happily canoed, kayaked, and hiked around waterfalls for five days.

On the honeymoon, Teresa finally made a decision about what to do with her last name. Names are meaningful and the choice was complex, involving politics, loyalty, convenience, cultural affiliation, feminism, and familial feelings of togetherness. T tried to convince N to change their name to "Kicker", but, well, everyone thinks that's silly. Teresa's last name at birth was C..., which changed later by an adoption into the K... family. The S...'s are a loving clan of generous, spirited, intelligent people and Teresa is happy to now legally call herself a S...

This year notable events in our families marked the passage of time. Nick's Uncle Joe S passed away after a short illness with cancer. Teresa's brother Chris, along with his wife Melisa, welcomed the birth of Macy Jade K to the family on November 2. Life is a circle.

Finally, the decade went out with a bang. We braved the elements and made it to Omaha just before the great blizzard of 2009. After a few days of weathering the storm, we went ice skating outdoors on a sunny New Year’s Day. Life is beautiful.


We look toward building a better world with you in the coming decade. We wish you stability and love for 2010.

Teresa and Nick